#58 - Empowered Beliefs
Hey, hey ladies. How are you? You guys, I am recording this episode way later at night than I normally record episodes, it feels really weird. But this is a special episode because I'm recording it from my condo up in Whistler, BC. And I haven't been in my condo in Whistler, BC for many, many years and we made a decision this year to spend some time here this winter. I'm moving the Lady Sculpt headquarters here. And I'm going to do a lot of my work from up here in the mountains because it's what feels really good to me right now and it empowers me to do all of the things. So I'm really happy to be here. I've been able to see a ton of my athletes and some of my old friends, and I've been hiking a ton and dude is loving it and the weather has been impeccable.
All right, you guys. So before we get started with today's episode. We are going to announce the winner of the Lady Sculpt Lifestyle One Year Anniversary Contest Part One. So last month during our one-year anniversary, I announced a contest series. What I asked you guys to do was email me in and your favorite Lady Sculpt episode, and why you. You guys, I have so many emails, they were all so good. I was planning to share some of them with you, but I couldn't choose. Each email I got had such a good story of how that episode impacted a life or changed the decision or motivated somebody to try. And so many of the emails had multiple favorite episodes, which I love. I love you so much you guys that this podcast is impacting you and that you look forward to listening to it every week and that you're enjoying it. You guys are my why. You're why I do this, even late at night. So we put all of the email responses into a bucket. Like literally you guys, this is how I pick winners. I write all the names down on a piece of paper and put them into a bucket. I picked a winner and I will email the winner for the size. I'm going to announce it to you. The winner was Miss Ainslie. I'm not going to do last names. She knows who she is. And her favorite episode. Thus far is episode number eight, failing forward, which is like 50 episodes ago. You guys, that is one of my favorite episodes. I'm a big fan of failing forward. That's how we all move forward in this life. So I will be emailing Ainslie. We're going to be getting her size. We're going to be getting her hooked up with an exclusive Lady Sculpt Lifestyle tank top.
And you guys were going to run another one. You have 12 chances to win one of these tank tops. We're going to be doing a different contest every four weeks. And today I'm announcing the next contest. And this contest is going to be you're going to have to get on the Instagrams you guys. Did you guys know that the Lady Sculpt Instagram got hacked this week? That was a bummer, someone stole my Lady Sculpt Instagram and took over and started promoting Bitcoin. If I send you a message promoting Bitcoin, you guys, it is not me. I promise. Okay. Don't believe it. Anyway, I'm going to send you guys to the Instagrams. I want you to screenshot the Lady Sculpt Lifestyle podcast on whatever podcasting platform you listen to it, Spotify, Apple, whatever. And share it in your stories and tag me @LylasLeona in it. And every time you tag me, in a Lady Sculp Lifestyle podcast story, you will get an entry into this month's contest. I'm going to be keeping a piece of paper and a tally. She is going, you guys old school. All right. So we're going to take social media this month. We're going to promote the Lady Sculpt Lifestyle podcast. And we're going to share it in our stories. If you wanted to put a post up about it and tag me in that, that'll count to you. Tag me in a Lady Sculpt Lifestyle podcast post, I'll give you a point and you can. Post as many times as you want, you can get as many entries as you want. You just have to tag me every time and that contest will run the next four weeks. So all posts up until Saturday the 5th of November, we'll go into this next contest. And the contest winner will be announced in the November 9th episode. All right. You guys, I hope that's not too confusing.
All right, let's get into episode number 58 empowered beliefs. Are you guys ready for this? So this kind of circles back a little bit into the empowered mindset, but I really wanted to dig into how you create an empowered mindset. Like it's one thing to, you know, own it all and be empowered to live your life purposefully. But how do you get there? I really sat back and thought about this, and I think having empowered beliefs is like the root of an empowered life and here's why. A belief is just a thought that is so ingrained in your head that you no longer doubt it. It's something you don't have to think about anymore because it is now a belief. It's something that just exists. So many of our beliefs are taught to us when we are young, our parents tell us things and we don't even really question it. We just believe it to be true because our parents know everything. Right. So we ingrain it in ourselves as a belief and some of us are really lucky we had parents that gave us empowered beliefs. I am one of those people. And some of us, we have to create our own empowered beliefs.
So what does an empowered belief sound like? Right. I have one that is pretty ingrained in me. It's something I've talked a lot about with my clients. And I think I've actually mentioned it on this podcast as well. It’s, I will always land on my feet. It's just something I know to be true. You can put me in any country, in any city, in any situation and I will figure that shit out. I will land on my feet. It's a capability belief that I have in myself. And it's very empowering for me. It makes me feel like I can overcome and be successful anywhere in any situation. Right. So I actually took to the Googles and I looked up empowered beliefs and Google's spit out some more at me that I want to offer to you guys. So one is very similar to mine, no matter what happens, I can handle it. Another one is that my past does not dictate my future. Oh, so good. Right? Another one is there is no failure, only feedback. And I added to it and opportunities to learn. Right. If we learn from a failure, it's not a failure, it's a growing opportunity. Another one I want to add to this is, there are always other options.
So, what do all these beliefs or thoughts have in common? All of these beliefs or thoughts create an energy of empowerment. A feeling of empowerment. And basically either you taking ownership or you having belief that you can move through whatever it is you are going through or find another way or pivot or move around or go over and continue on the path towards whatever it is you're working on. Right. So I think of being disempowered as feeling stuck or victimized, or like you're not in control of your life or what you're going after. So empowerment is taking back your control, taking back your power, right? That is essentially what the power of an empowered belief can give you. It allows you to be in the driver's seat of your human experience.
So I want you to think about how you would use empowered beliefs. In our lives, situations or circumstances arise that we have very little control over. Other human beings say things or do things or, you know, pandemics hit or we get fired or someone else gets the promotion or we don't win the thing or we wake up feeling tired and grumpy, right? Like all of these circumstances are possible for us. And we have very little control over what other people do. And what the weather is doing and, you know, the elements that come and what the world throws at us. But we have a hundred percent control over what we choose to think or believe about it and about ourselves. So we get to choose to either think an empowered thought or a disempowered thought. We get to choose how we're going to fuel the emotion that drives us forward from that circumstance. And this is where empowered beliefs can come in so handy. If you practice empowered thinking, if you practice over and over again, reminding yourself that you will land on your feet, that your past doesn't dictate your future, that there is no failure. It's not possible as long as you learn. And move forward from it. That there's always another option. When you really instill these thoughts and these beliefs into your brain and you remind yourself of them. When shit hits the fan, when a situation or a circumstance comes along, that you don't feel like you have a lot of control over, but you remind yourself, no matter what happens I can handle it. Those thoughts create the feeling, the energy of empowerment and a little bit of control in our bodies and from feeling empowered, from feeling like we have a choice in how we want to move forward, we take empowered action.
And what empowered action looks like you guys is it looks like, us putting our heads down and researching or learning about what comes next about dissecting what we did that wasn't as successful as we wanted it to be, learning from that and trying again. From empowered feelings we take action. The emotion of feeling empowered is not still.
It is not stagnant, it's not lazy, it moves forward, it does the scary thing, it owns up to what didn't work and figures out a better way. Empowered beliefs create massive action. You guys have heard me talk about a massive action. Massive action is the decision to make something happen no matter how long it takes. You're gonna figure it out. If it takes me 10 days or 10 years, I will figure it out and achieve the goal. I love massive action you guys. Massive action is totally my thing. All right. What empowered action creates is a purposeful result. Right. It's giving you a result from a place of empowered action. And from there, you get to decide if that result is good enough, or if you want to go back to empowered belief thinking and start all over. Right. You're gonna have a new circumstance. All right, you guys.
So if you're struggling to find an empowered belief in a situation or a circumstance. I have a couple of questions. I want you to ask yourself. You can write these down. I like having good questions around my house in my journal, in the fridge, because sometimes our brains get stuck in a place where you're not asking good questions. You're asking, you know, why do I feel so crappy today? And why can't I achieve that goal? And why do I always want pizza? And you know. Those kinds of questions, those questions don't give us good answers. So here's some questions that can help you find an empowered thought. Are you ready? You have your pencil, your paper. Let's Go.
Here's the first one. How can I own this? This is a really important question to ask yourself, especially if you find yourself in a space where you're blaming somebody or a circumstance for how you're feeling. Let me give you an example. I recently had a friend who was thinking that somebody else was reckless with her emotional state. Right. Someone else wasn't careful about how she would feel in a circumstance. And because she was feeling like someone else was reckless, it made her feel very disempowered. And so I asked her how can you take back your power in this situation? How can you own this? And she came up with I was really reckless with my emotions and boom. Now all of a sudden she can look at the circumstance and go okay, how was I reckless? What could I change? What could I do differently? What could I learn from this? And how can I move forward from this? When we are giving our power to somebody else. When we blame somebody else for the way that we feel, it puts us in a very disempowered place that is very hard to move forward from. And it's very easy to sit in the gunk. Right. But when we own it, it allows us a place to learn and move forward from. Right. This might also look like blaming a coach for a lack of result or a lack of consistency. When you blame somebody else for your lack of result, you're giving away all your power, babe. When you say how can I take ownership of this? What could I have done better? How could I have shown up in this relationship? And what can I learn from this? Now you're in a place of empowerment. So that's how I can own this or how can I take back my power in this.
Question number two. How does this serve me? Sometimes when you're stuck in a place where you feel like the world is beating you down. I think all of us kind of experienced this at one point or another during COVID. Stepping back from the situation and looking at it from a different lens. A lens of how does this situation serve me or how is this situation happening for me? Can really change your perspective on it. This is something I worked with a number of my clients during COVID where they were feeling really at the effects of COVID, they had lost their jobs or homeschooling their kids and trying to stay working. And it was really hard. When we were able to change the lens and really look at how this is happening for me, or how this situation serves me. They were able to come up with thoughts. Like I get to spend all this time with my kids and they were able to move into gratitude or another thought that came up a lot is I finally have time to focus on my fitness or I finally have time to take a course in that subject I've been wanting to learn about for forever, or I finally have time to pivot my career into doing something I love rather than something that just pays the bills. So when we can step back from a situation that isn't serving us and ask ourselves, how does this serve me? It changes the story that our brain is telling us. It allows us to start thinking in a more empowered way. All right.
And the last question I want you guys to write down is what are my other options. So whenever we're in a situation where it doesn't work out the way we want it to. Whenever we don't win or we miss out on an opportunity or we don't get chosen for something, or we decide, maybe we don't really like what we are going for. Sitting down and writing out all of our other options is a really good way of reminding ourselves that we have so many opportunities and choices and options in this world, in this life we live. It's unbelievable what we have access to. An example I can give you on this one is, I recently a friend of mine messaged me and she asked me this question. Why am I always passed over for promotions? You know me pretty good. Is it something I'm doing? And I thought about this before answering her back. I didn't answer right away. I really thought about it. And the answer that I ended up giving her was could you be meant for something totally different. Could this be the universe telling you that you're not moving in the right direction. And I asked this because I wanted her to look at her other options. I wanted her to open up her eyes to everything that was available for her. Sometimes we can have a very limited perspective on what's available to us. Maybe we look at jobs in the newspaper or on job sites online. Instead of going after a career, we want, even though it's not posted in the help, wanted section. So when you find yourself feeling very limited or like what you've been chasing your whole life is no longer available to you. I want you to sit down with a piece of paper and pen and I want you to ask yourself, what are all my other options? What else is out there for me? And let your brain go to work on all the things that are possible for you.
All right my friends, that is what I have for you tonight in episode number 58. I will see you next week for episode 59. Bye for now.